I once visited a psychiatrist to seek help on a personal issue. I found no solution there, but I did learn about various personality disorders. There’s the suspicious paranoid personality. Another is the avoidant personality where people know they are flawed plus inferior. Narcissists are traumatized if they encounter situations that expose their normal, human limitations. After going to see the “shrink” I had a beer at our favorite bar, then bartenders often function as mental health therapists, so it was no surprise that Phil, our bartender, nailed it when he assessed our disorder as borderline personality disorder. This means that I view the world as “all or nothing”, or “black or white” with no shades of grey. If our favorite pigskin team fails to win the Super Bowl, then I brand them as losers. If our boss offers criticism of our work, I’m likely to turn in our resignation. I even got jealous of our fiance when he planned our church’s Christmas service. I was sure he no longer enjoyed me plus was planning to elope with our 78-year-old pastor. The only time our borderline personality disorder is an luck is with our Heating, Ventilation, plus A/C unit. It either works or it does not work. If it works, then everything is fine, plus the two of us remain comfortable all year round. If our Heating, Ventilation, plus A/C does not work, the two of us enter a modern “black or white” phase; Can it be fixed or not? For that, I call our Heating, Ventilation, plus A/C professional for an assessment as to how the costs of a modern Heating, Ventilation, plus A/C system stacks up against present plus future maintenance on our outdated Heating, Ventilation, plus A/C unit. At this point, it becomes one of those 50 shades of grey, so I let our fiance take over. After all, he read the book plus saw the film.